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title:"Active Listening"
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## TL;DR

Active listening is fully concentrating on, understanding, and responding to what someone is saying — not just waiting for your turn to speak. Techniques: paraphrase ('What I'm hearing is...'), ask open questions, reflect feelings, avoid interrupting, use non-verbal cues (nodding, eye contact).

## Core Explanation

Levels of listening: ignoring, pretending, selective, attentive, empathic (Covey). Empathic listening: understand their frame of reference — 'Seek first to understand, then to be understood.' Reflective listening: mirror back content and emotion. Don't: formulate response while they speak, one-up, judge, advise prematurely. Silence: allows speaker to process — resist urge to fill it.

## Further Reading

- [Crucial Conversations (Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler)](https://www.mheducation.com/highered/product/crucial-conversations-tools-talking-when-stakes-high-2nd-edition-patterson-grenny/M9780071771320.html)